Selling my virginity: about this blog

[Update: Roland has moved abroad after I sold sexual services to him but before selling virginity. So I’m currently looking for another client. My AdultWork profile: ]

I’m writing this blog to document my experience of selling my virginity (and making an artistic pornographic film out of it). He’s giving me £4,000 for virginity and to film it but I have to see him 3 times prior to that. If we want to continue after that it will be 4 more times (£8k altogether) . He pays me £1,000 each time; I wanted it in installments so I can back out if I want/I will definitely get paid.

I am a student and we are both into spanking and other SM stuff, and we are both switches (we enjoy being dominant and also being submissive). We also seem to share a fascination with the virgin/whore dichotomy in art, culture and society. Nobody ever saw me naked before Roland so I’m a very pure virgin 🙂 If you would like to read about my adventure, it’s all in my Diary category:  All names will be changed, but everything else is true.

The feminism category has posts on issues that are relevant (or slightly relevant) to the Diary – social control of female sexuality, political and media portrayals/discourses, slut-shaming, stigmatisation of lone and young mothers, etc. Find the feminism category here:

Posts on portrayals in literature/the media and posts on sex work and BDSM have their own categories, though they are all written from a liberal, sex-positive feminist perspective.

All posts are written from a liberal sex-positive feminist perspective, assuming sympathy to, or a little bit of knowledge of, the issues concerned. In other words, this blog isn’t aiming to change anyone’s mind, so if you are anti-feminist or right-wing, this blog will not convince you otherwise. Posts will also not go into in-depth explanations of what the issues are or definitions of terms; the focus will be on analysis, criticism, etc. Use the categories sidebar to find your way around, or click on the links on this page.

If you are interested in selling your virginity (whether you’re gay, straight, male, female or intersex/trans) there is a category for that too, where you’ll find 25 tips to get you started and a list of all known virginity sellers:

These are all quick links to help you navigate the blog; I picked them because they seem to get the most views, and also represent the ‘flavour’ of the blog:

50 Shades of Grey:


Lone motherhood:

The virgin-whore dichotomy:

If you like spanking/BDSM fiction, you’ll find that here – 7 stories, short and long, all pairings:

If you’re wondering why I’m selling virginity or any other FAQs, you can take a look at my Q and A/FAQS here:


15 responses to “Selling my virginity: about this blog

  1. renhir

    June 8, 2012 at 6:48 am

    Thank you for visiting male/female and for your insightfull comment.

  2. BroadBlogs

    July 9, 2012 at 8:22 pm

    Sounds interesting, to say the least.

  3. bennyd10

    October 7, 2012 at 3:28 am

    I find your bog very refreshing. It is difficult to find such sex-positive attitudes nowadays.

  4. Oversigned

    October 15, 2012 at 2:40 am

    I am too inspired by you, whore. I’m inspired to stick to uphold my boundaries, lest all my morality becomes as relative as yours.

    • Kalika Gold: VirginWhore

      October 15, 2012 at 3:36 am

      Heh 🙂 My first right-wing nut (or troll) comment!

  5. Cassie

    December 15, 2012 at 6:11 pm

    I nominated you for The Liebster Award. 🙂

    • Kalika Gold: VirginWhore

      December 17, 2012 at 2:08 am

      OMG No way! I can’t believe this, well, thank you! This really means a lot to me, Cassie, especially since it took a long time for people even to notice my blog. I never thought this would happen. Thanks!!

  6. Cassie

    January 10, 2013 at 6:04 pm

    I have nominated you for the Liebster Award via my Devil’s Advocate blog because I think you deserve it an I am curious about your answers to my questions.

  7. Johnny

    February 21, 2013 at 12:56 am

    It’s difficult to find blogs about sexuality that aren’t colored with supernatural fear and Post-Victorian doubt. Congratulations.

    • Kalika Gold: VirginWhore

      February 22, 2013 at 2:09 am

      Thank you, that means a lot to me. Steering clear of such doubts and fears is harder than I thought it’d be.

      • Johnny

        February 22, 2013 at 6:47 pm

        You’re trying to subvert decades if not centuries of cultural conditioning. That’s difficult, but not unheard of, and good luck- be safe, and have fun!

  8. JK Wagner

    March 15, 2013 at 9:04 pm

    I’d love to ask you a few questions for an article we’re working on, let me know if you’re interested.

  9. biancadubois

    June 7, 2013 at 8:28 pm

    I’m in the process of selling my virginity online and have set up a blog. From one virgin whore to another, would you look through it and see if I’m missing anything glaringly obvious? Also, since you get such traffic from people looking for virginity auctions, I’d appreciate a link or shout out if you could. Entirely up to you, of course, but I’d return the favor if I ever got your amount of traffic. Thanks!

  10. thecategoricalhousewife

    June 26, 2013 at 6:35 pm

    Will definitely be following you! Cheers! 🙂


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