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Better a SLUT than a TRAITOR: Radical feminism is worse than the patriarchy

18 Jun

This is partially inspired by what The Dom Next Door (Scot) just commented on my post ‘Misunderstandings about Feminism’.

The radical feminists viewed all men as complicit in the patriarchy and sex as rape. This was a fallacious argument in regard to porn, because the Minneapolis Ordinance made by Dworkin and MacKinnon claimed that anything depicting sex as equal or nondegrading isn’t porn. But as Carol Smart (1979) points out, if all sex is rape and men always have power over women then there is no equal nondegrading sex because the genders are unequal. The radical feminists’ preoccupation with pornography as the spring from which all inequality flows is also dubious. Isn’t economic, legal or social inequality more important than porn? Worst of all, the radical feminists slammed any woman who liked porn as having been brainwashed by the patriarchy. This war over sex tore the feminist movement apart in the 1980s and it is only in the last couple of years that feminism has begun to recover; the radicals have dwindled and the new brand appears decidedly liberal feminist. In the USA, they are often in direct opposition to conservative right-wingers, most recently over birth control.

The radical feminists had it all wrong. By driving butch/femme lesbians, transgender women, sadomasochists and women who wear heels out of their organizations, they splintered the movement and gave ground to the right-wingers by shunning homosexual and trans women. Indeed, their battle over pornography necessitated allying themselves with the conservative right and their position became “ultimately indistinguishable”, in the words of Smart, from those who were most opposed to feminist goals.

Additionally, how could they pretend to speak for ALL women if some women were excluded? If some women are branded ‘not-women’ or ‘brainwashed women’ then will they not lose even more rights if radical feminism was to prevail, being despised by both men and women?

But another big mistake was equating enjoying (hetero)sex, porn and (even lesbian) s/m with betraying the sisterhood. It meant denying women sexual agency and a right to express or explore their sexuality. And this was one of the greatest achievements of the patriarchy. The patriarchy’s double standard had ensured that women were socialised into denying their womanhood and suppressing all sexual expression. This ensured a virgin/whore dichotomy where a woman’s only real choice is to remain virginal and if she is not she is seen as a whore regardless of how experienced she actually is. This attitude leads to hymen veneration, socially enforced (in modern times, politically/educationally enforced) abstinence and the prescription of bridal virginity. If you are female, you are either a virgin or a whore. The radical feminists’ version of feminism created a woman/not woman or sister/traitor dichotomy. I think that personally I’d rather live under the patriarchy. Better a slut than a traitor.

Sexual agency is the one issue that seems hardest to wrest from men. It seems like we haven’t progressed as far as we have with other feminist issues. Why is it that shame-words like slut, whore, easy, tart, ‘been around the block’, ‘gets around’, cheap, skank, tramp, etc are usually aimed at women? There’s no male equivalent of ‘slut’. We have to experiment with ‘man-whore’ at best. Actually, the closest equivalent of ‘slut’ is ‘stud’. Does that tell you anything?

Why is it that lone mothers are looked at as easy, sluts, poor, breeders with lots of kids, welfare moms or unwed when the majority are divorced and have less than the average number of kids? Why is the word ‘unwed’ in the phrase ‘unwed teenage mother’? Why, in the era of Ms., does her marital status matter? Truth is, guys and girls, we’d feel a whole lot more comfortable if these single mums – old, young, rich, poor, educated, dropout – got themselves shackled to a man, preferably with a wedding ring (I’ve never heard the phrase ‘uncohabiting teen mom’).

Sexual agency – what little we’ve managed to glean – is one of our most important, hardest-earned achievements. To be able to admit we watch porn, have been with a lot of guys or touch ourselves or have had a threesome is a new freedom (and a lot of us still can’t admit these things as freely as our brothers do, if at all.) A lot of women around the world don’t have this freedom. So the radical feminists were wrong to argue that sex isn’t empowering for women – it is. Not necessarily the Sun’s page 3 – though it may or may not feel empowering for the model personally – but just watching porn or having guys do the equivalent of page 3 for women, guysworrying about pleasing women in bed, just being able to say we need pleasure, we need to satisfy our urges, and demanding that guys do that for us. Even acting submissive and getting spanked by a guy isn’t imitating the patriarchy, it’s getting a man to satisfy your lust. Now, what is un-feminist about that? Fucking lots of guys or a guy you don’t love isn’t un-feminist either, it’s just using them for your own pleasure. What’s un-feminist about that, either?

Call me a slut if you will, men (and women enforcers) of the patriarchy. Because in an apocalyptic world with a gun to my head, I’d rather kiss the cute rounded male ass of the patriarchy than the female ass of the radical feminists.

Better a slut than a traitor.

 
1 Comment

Posted by on June 18, 2012 in Feminism

 

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One response to “Better a SLUT than a TRAITOR: Radical feminism is worse than the patriarchy

  1. jean

    September 29, 2012 at 6:08 pm

    a traitor is way worse then a slut. sex is empowering for women because it gives them a edge on sexual things

     

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